They Never Listen

No matter what conflict arises in a marriage, it all comes down to communication. If communication is a problem, resolving any other issues will be nearly impossible. As soon as you find a solution, the tension can return when the next disagreement comes up. Sometimes, the communication problem becomes so big that it’s just as important as the other issues being discussed. Often, when one partner realizes the need for better communication, the other may resist the change. This is when it’s crucial to both work together before things get worse.

Be aware of pride, self-righteousness, and over-confidence, as these can quickly create obstacles. Misunderstandings can cause one spouse to resist what the other is trying to express. It’s important to learn how to ask for what you want. We often complain about what’s missing but forget to express our true desires. Instead of focusing on how your spouse isn’t giving you attention, try sharing how much you long for their love and care.

Galatians 6:1-5 teaches us to restore each other gently and bear one another's burdens. When disagreements arise, avoid name-calling, blaming, or shaming. A toxic relationship can’t thrive. Instead, take responsibility for your own feelings. Instead of saying “you always do this,” try saying “I felt hurt when…” This helps shift the focus away from blaming and toward understanding each other’s feelings.

1 Corinthians 10:12 reminds us to stay humble and aware of our own weaknesses, so we don’t fall into temptation.

How can we improve communication? Talking is only part of it; it’s about turning those talks into action. A genuine effort to communicate can bring hope to a struggling marriage. Set a time and place—like the kitchen table—to talk about any issues that need addressing. This should be a time free of distractions, and no interrupting or criticizing. If things start to get heated, it’s okay for one person to step away until they calm down. It’s also helpful to have one spouse take notes and keep a Bible nearby for guidance. Start and end with prayer, and take turns praying. Understand that developing good communication is a process that takes time, but it’s worth the effort.

Make an effort to really listen to your spouse, trying to understand their perspective without immediately reacting. Even if things look different from your point of view, be curious about what your partner is saying. You might be surprised by what you learn.

A painful truth many married couples face is that "my spouse is not me." It’s important to recognize that your spouse may see the world very differently than you. Making space for that difference is key to growing together in your marriage.

I have provided my resources below.  Remember, asking for help is one of the biggest opportunities you can take in building your marriage.  

Critical Stages of Biblical Counseling, Jay E Adams

Theology of Biblical Counseling, Heath Lambert

Forgiving Others, Timothy S Lane

Finding local counselors through ACBC:  Find a Biblical Counselor Near You - ACBC

 

1946 Project -- Is It Really Mis-Translation?

 

In the review of the resources, movie clips, movie reviews and discussions by the director and others involved with the production of this project, the discussion of the human behavior and how God has instructed us to live a fulfilling life has some flaws in the foundational thinking.  I have no doubt that scholars introduced the term "homosexual" as a relatively new word. However, I wonder how far back they went to understand the intent of the original writings and whether they truly examined the historical context of the texts in their original Hebrew, Greek, and Aramaic forms. (I must disclaim here they have expressed confirmation they have done this research) It seems inadequate to use the year 1946 as a pivotal starting point for interpreting this issue.

Homosexuality is not merely a behavior—it is a moral issue. God has consistently made His stance clear, starting from Genesis. If you claim to be a Christian, you must also be adhering to the foundational principles of Christian theology. One of the most basic principles is recognizing the connection between the Old and New Testaments. The Old Testament foretells the birth and coming of Christ, while the New Testament proclaims His actions, teachings, and eventual return.

To uncover the truth God is revealing through the Holy Spirit and the men who wrote the Scriptures, you must consider the context, historical timeframe, intent, and cross-references of the writings. Only through this approach can the deeper meaning and truth of God's Word be understood.

I will go even further back than the 1611 translation. My reference will be the original writings in their original languages. While I do not speak all four languages myself, I have a trust in those who are fluent in them and have provided a reliable translation and interpretation whom I will be bringing my reference from Israel and the historical writings from the Holy Land.  This forms the foundation of my stance and why I cannot support the effort to justify making this behavior acceptable without consequences. 

Language has evolved over the centuries, and the meanings and interpretations of words have changed. It is essential to consider the culture and the original intent of the writer. For example, the director, Rocky Roggio, explained the term for "effeminate," κίναιδος (kinaidos, or cinaedus in its Latinized form), and μαλακοί (malakoi), referring to a man whose defining characteristic was a supposedly "feminine" desire to be sexually penetrated by other men. I agree that, historically, sex was often used as a tool to fulfill personal pleasures and assert a false sense of power.

Unfortunately, the exploitation of sex slaves—whether children, women, or men—has remained consistent throughout history. This context must be understood when examining these texts and their original meanings.  What is the most responsible, original text, the reference of the most logical and translational in the current understanding of the current vocabulary

The scholars in 1946 were attempting to address the cultural shifts and challenges of their time, much like the differences you are now seeking to dismantle. In 1946, it was common to say, “It’s a very gay day,” to describe a bright, cheerful day. Today, however, the word "gay" is no longer widely understood as a metaphor for happiness. Similarly, in 1946, I could have said, “That is very queer” to describe something unusual or perplexing, such as a computer behaving unpredictably. The word "queer" no longer primarily means strange or peculiar.

The rainbow, which for centuries symbolized God’s promise to never again flood the earth, has now been adopted by the LGBTQ+ community to represent their agenda. Indeed, word meanings have evolved over time, and in 1946, scholars were attempting to make the Bible more accessible to a changing culture. While I recognize that culture has changed, these changes were not solely based on the words people now find offensive. Rather, they stemmed from a broader drift—away from the foundational truths of the Bible and toward a humanistic worldview centered on man’s reasoning.

As the researchers and director has pointed out in this documentary, this shift wasn’t limited to confusion over identity or the acceptance of homosexuality. It also reflected a broader deterioration in the value placed on human life and an increasing insistence on individual rights, often at the expense of others.

I present this theology to illustrate the flow of the Old Testament into the New Testament. While it is true that works are not required for our salvation, and the inclusion of all people is central to becoming part of the Bride of Christ, both Paul and Jesus clearly emphasize the importance of rejecting sin. When someone persists in sinful behavior, especially with pride and disregard for God's Word, Scripture compels us, as brothers and sisters in Christ, to lovingly call out faulty thinking and behavior.

The foundation God has established for human relationships is unmistakable. The relationship between a man and a woman was designed to reflect the relationship between God and Jesus, and Jesus with His Bride, the Church. Scripture consistently references man and woman in this context, making it clear that there are two genders, period. While the fall of humanity brought sin into the world, leading to physical and moral brokenness, it is important to acknowledge that true medical cases of chromosomal or physical variance at birth are extremely rare occurring in less than 1% of the population when examined honestly and scientifically.

The Old Testament lays out a clear framework for the creation of man and woman and the institution of marriage. These passages highlight the relationship between men and women, with no mention of same-sex unions, as this concept was so well-understood among the Jewish people that further clarification was unnecessary. Issues regarding sexual behavior, including prohibitions, are explicitly addressed in books like Leviticus and Deuteronomy, which emphasize that sexual relationships are designed to exist within the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman. They also outline the consequences of violating these laws.

In conclusion, I understand the desire for validation of their feelings and the questions which are presented have why certain cultural restraints appear to exist. However, I ask  to consider this: Are these restraints truly imposed by men, or are they the revelation of God's desire for a healthy and joyful life? This tension echoes the question posed in the garden long ago: “Did God really say?”

This is the following texts which I have had discussed with  whom was able to help me understand any misrepresentations if any or misunderstandings between the original text and the English translation. 

 

 

 

 

Creation of Man and Woman

1. Genesis 1:26-28 (Creation of Humanity)
Hebrew:
וַיֹּאמֶר אֱלֹהִים נַעֲשֶׂה אָדָם בְּצַלְמֵנוּ כִּדְמוּתֵנוּ, וְיִרְדוּ בִדְגַת הַיָּם וּבְעוֹף הַשָּׁמַיִם וּבַבְּהֵמָה וּבְכָל הָאָרֶץ וּבְכָל הָרֶמֶשׂ הָרֹמֵשׂ עַל הָאָרֶץ.
וַיִּבְרָא אֱלֹהִים אֶת הָאָדָם בְּצַלְמוֹ, בְּצֶלֶם אֱלֹהִים בָּרָא אֹתוֹ; זָכָר וּנְקֵבָה בָּרָא אֹתָם.
וַיְבָרֶךְ אֹתָם אֱלֹהִים, וַיֹּאמֶר לָהֶם אֱלֹהִים פְּרוּ וּרְבוּ וּמִלְאוּ אֶת הָאָרֶץ וְכִבְשׁוּהָ, וּרְדוּ בִּדְגַת הַיָּם וּבְעוֹף הַשָּׁמַיִם וּבְכָל חַיָּה הָרֹמֶשֶׂת עַל הָאָרֶץ.

English Translation:
Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over the livestock, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth."
So God created man in His own image,
in the image of God He created him;
male and female He created them.
And God blessed them. And God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth."

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2. Genesis 2:7 (Formation of Man)
Hebrew:
וַיִּיצֶר יְהוָה אֱלֹהִים אֶת הָאָדָם עָפָר מִן הָאֲדָמָה, וַיִּפַּח בְּאַפָּיו נִשְׁמַת חַיִּים; וַיְהִי הָאָדָם לְנֶפֶשׁ חַיָּה.

English Translation:
Then the LORD God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature.

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3. Genesis 2:18-23 (Creation of Woman and the First Marriage)
Hebrew (Selection):
וַיֹּאמֶר יְהוָה אֱלֹהִים לֹא טוֹב הֱיוֹת הָאָדָם לְבַדּוֹ; אֶעֱשֶׂה־לּוֹ עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֹ.
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וַיַּפֵּל יְהוָה אֱלֹהִים תַּרְדֵּמָה עַל הָאָדָם וַיִּישָׁן; וַיִּקַּח אַחַת מִצַּלְעֹתָיו, וַיִּסְגֹּר בָּשָׂר תַּחְתֶּנָּה.
וַיִּבֶן יְהוָה אֱלֹהִים אֶת הַצֵּלָע אֲשֶׁר לָקַח מִן הָאָדָם לְאִשָּׁה, וַיְבִאֶהָ אֶל הָאָדָם.
וַיֹּאמֶר הָאָדָם: זֹאת הַפַּעַם עֶצֶם מֵעֲצָמַי וּבָשָׂר מִבְּשָׂרִי; לְזֹאת יִקָּרֵא אִשָּׁה, כִּי מֵאִישׁ לֻקֳחָה־זֹּאת.

English Translation:
Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him."
... So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man He made into a woman and brought her to the man.
Then the man said,
"This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man."

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Institution of Marriage

1. Genesis 2:24 (God's Design for Marriage)
Hebrew:
עַל־כֵּן יַעֲזָב־אִישׁ אֶת־אָבִיו וְאֶת־אִמּוֹ, וְדָבַק בְּאִשְׁתּוֹ; וְהָיוּ לְבָשָׂר אֶחָד.

English Translation:
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

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Here are the Hebrew texts along with their English translations for the requested passages from Leviticus, Malachi, and Deuteronomy:

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Leviticus: Sexual Laws

1. Leviticus 18:6 (Prohibition of Incest)
Hebrew:
אִישׁ אִישׁ אֶל־כָּל־שְׁאֵר בְּשָׂרוֹ לֹא תִקְרְבוּ לְגַלּוֹת עֶרְוָה אֲנִי יְהוָה.

English Translation:
"None of you shall approach any one of his close relatives to uncover nakedness. I am the LORD."

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2. Leviticus 18:22 (Prohibition of Homosexuality)
Hebrew:
וְאֶת־זָכָר לֹא תִשְׁכַּב מִשְׁכְּבֵי אִשָּׁה תּוֹעֵבָה הִוא.

English Translation:
"You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination."

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3. Leviticus 18:23 (Prohibition of Bestiality)
Hebrew:
וּבְכָל־בְּהֵמָה לֹא תִתֵּן שְׁכָבְתְּךָ לְטָמְאָה־בָהּ, וְאִשָּׁה לֹא־תַעֲמֹד לִפְנֵי בְהֵמָה לְרִבְעָהּ תֶּבֶל הוּא.

English Translation:
"And you shall not lie with any animal and so make yourself unclean with it, neither shall any woman give herself to an animal to lie with it: it is perversion."

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4. Leviticus 20:13 (Punishment for Homosexuality)
Hebrew:
וְאִישׁ אֲשֶׁר יִשְׁכַּב אֶת־זָכָר מִשְׁכְּבֵי אִשָּׁה תּוֹעֵבָה עָשׂוּ שְׁנֵיהֶם מוֹת יוּמָתוּ דְּמֵיהֶם בָּם.

English Translation:
"If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them."

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Malachi: God’s Covenant with Marriage

1. Malachi 2:14-15
Hebrew:
וַאֲמַרְתֶּם עַל־מָה? עַל כִּי יְהוָה הֵעִיד בֵּינְךָ וּבֵין אֵשֶׁת נְעוּרֶיךָ אֲשֶׁר־אַתָּה בָּגַדְתָּה בָהּ וְהִיא חֲבֶרְתְּךָ וְאֵשֶׁת בְּרִיתֶךָ.
וְלֹא־אֶחָד עָשָׂה וּשְׁאָר רוּחַ לוֹ? וּמָה הָאֶחָד מְבַקֵּשׁ? זֶרַע אֱלֹהִים, וְנִשְׁמַרְתֶּם בְּרוּחֲכֶם וּבְאֵשֶׁת נְעוּרֶיךָ אַל־יִבְגּוֹד.

English Translation:
But you say, "Why does He not?" Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.
Did He not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.

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Deuteronomy: Sexual Ethics

1. Deuteronomy 22:22 (Adultery)
Hebrew:
כִּי־יִמָּצֵא אִישׁ שֹׁכֵב עִם־אִשָּׁה בַעֲלַת בַּעַל וּמֵתוּ גַּם־שְׁנֵיהֶם הָאִישׁ הַשֹּׁכֵב עִם־הָאִשָּׁה וְהָאִשָּׁה וּבִעַרְתָּ הָרָע מִיִּשְׂרָאֵל.

English Translation:
"If a man is found lying with the wife of another man, both of them shall die, the man who lay with the woman, and the woman. So you shall purge the evil from Israel."

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2. Deuteronomy 22:30 (Prohibition Against Marrying a Father’s Wife)
Hebrew:
לֹא־יִקַּח אִישׁ אֶת־אֵשֶׁת אָבִיו וְלֹא יְגַלֶּה כְּנַף אָבִיו.

English Translation:
"A man shall not take his father’s wife, so that he does not uncover his father’s nakedness."

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Here are the requested verses in Greek and English translations:

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Romans 1:26-28

Greek (Original Text):
Διὰ τοῦτο παρέδωκεν αὐτοὺς ὁ Θεὸς εἰς πάθη ἀτιμίας· αἵ τε γὰρ θήλειαι αὐτῶν μετήλλαξαν τὴν φυσικὴν χρῆσιν εἰς τὴν παρὰ φύσιν·
ὁμοίως δὲ καὶ οἱ ἄρρενες ἀφέντες τὴν φυσικὴν χρῆσιν τῆς θηλείας ἐξεκαύθησαν ἐν τῇ ὀρέξει αὐτῶν εἰς ἀλλήλους, ἄρσενες ἐν ἄρσεσιν τὴν ἀσχημοσύνην κατεργαζόμενοι καὶ τὴν ἀντιμισθίαν ἣν ἔδει τῆς πλάνης αὐτῶν ἐν ἑαυτοῖς ἀπολαμβάνοντες.
Καὶ καθὼς οὐκ ἐδοκίμασαν τὸν Θεὸν ἔχειν ἐν ἐπιγνώσει, παρέδωκεν αὐτοὺς ὁ Θεὸς εἰς ἀδόκιμον νοῦν, ποιεῖν τὰ μὴ καθήκοντα.

English Translation (ESV):
"For this reason, God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done."

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Mark 10:6-9

Greek (Original Text):
ἀπὸ δὲ ἀρχῆς κτίσεως ἄρσεν καὶ θῆλυ ἐποίησεν αὐτούς ὁ Θεός·
ἕνεκεν τούτου καταλείψει ἄνθρωπος τὸν πατέρα αὐτοῦ καὶ τὴν μητέρα καὶ προσκολληθήσεται πρὸς τὴν γυναῖκα αὐτοῦ,
καὶ ἔσονται οἱ δύο εἰς σάρκα μίαν· ὥστε οὐκέτι εἰσὶν δύο ἀλλὰ μία σάρξ.
ὃ οὖν ὁ Θεὸς συνέζευξεν, ἄνθρωπος μὴ χωριζέτω.

English Translation (ESV):
"But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."

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1 Corinthians 6:9-10

Greek (Original Text):
Ἢ οὐκ οἴδατε ὅτι ἄδικοι Θεοῦ βασιλείαν οὐ κληρονομήσουσιν; Μὴ πλανᾶσθε· οὔτε πόρνοι οὔτε εἰδωλολάτραι οὔτε μοιχοὶ οὔτε μαλακοὶ οὔτε ἀρσενοκοῖται
οὔτε κλέπται οὔτε πλεονέκται, οὔτε μέθυσοι οὔτε λοίδοροι οὔτε ἅρπαγες βασιλείαν Θεοῦ κληρονομήσουσιν.

English Translation (ESV):
"Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God."

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1 Timothy 1:8-11

Greek (Original Text):
Οἴδαμεν δὲ ὅτι ὁ νόμος καλὸς ἐάν τις αὐτῷ νομίμως χρῆται,
εἰδὼς τοῦτο, ὅτι δικαίῳ νόμος οὐ κεῖται, ἀνόμοις δὲ καὶ ἀνυποτάκτοις, ἀσεβέσι καὶ ἁμαρτωλοῖς, ἀνοσίοις καὶ βεβήλοις, πατρολῴαις καὶ μητρολῴαις, ἀνδροφόνοις,
πόρνοις, ἀρσενοκοίταις, ἀνδραποδισταῖς, ψεύσταις, ἐπιόρκοις, καὶ εἴ τι ἕτερον τῇ ὑγιαινούσῃ διδασκαλίᾳ ἀντίκειται,
κατὰ τὸ εὐαγγέλιον τῆς δόξης τοῦ μακαρίου Θεοῦ, ὃ ἐπιστεύθην ἐγώ.

English Translation (ESV):
"Now we know that the law is good, if one uses it lawfully, understanding this, that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted."

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1 Corinthians 7:2

Greek (Original Text):
διὰ δὲ τὰς πορνείας ἕκαστος τὴν ἑαυτοῦ γυναῖκα ἐχέτω, καὶ ἑκάστη τὸν ἴδιον ἄνδρα ἐχέτω.

English Translation (ESV):
"But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband."

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What is Holding You Back Today?

 

Let's be honest—we all have habits we'd rather keep hidden. These are the weaknesses that, while offering a temporary sense of comfort, also bring along a deep feeling of shame. We often push them to the back of our minds, only to face them again when the craving for that next fix takes over. Whether it’s overeating, smoking, lottery, shopping, or any other habit, it’s incredibly frustrating to get stuck in the endless cycle of cravings, temporary satisfaction, consequences, and the shame that follows. We’re trying to meet our physical cravings, but in the process, we’re feeding our desire for that dopamine rush, only to face the fallout later.

God designed our bodies with the ability to experience pleasure through dopamine—this provides short-term enjoyment and helps us respond to fear or danger. However, this wasn’t meant to be how we live every day. Some people fall into the trap of seeking that constant "high," becoming dependent on it to cope with life’s challenges.

In fact, God warns against relying on the fleeting euphoria of these highs instead of trusting Him to provide and care for our needs. Though it may not be something we openly speak about, those battling these habits know in their hearts that they are struggling with something more than just the habit itself. These habits are sinful. As much as we want to hide them, sin cannot be contained. Hebrews 3:12-13 warns us: “Take care, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God. But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called 'today,' that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” We often rationalize our "little sins," convincing ourselves they’re not that bad or that everyone is doing them. But this doesn’t stop the consequences. God is clear in His warning in Proverbs 3:5-7: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and turn away from evil.”

Overcoming these habits is no easy feat, and it often requires repeated attempts. Some people may experience immediate relief after confessing their struggles to God, acknowledging their sins, and seeking His forgiveness. Others, like myself, may face daily battles and need to put intentional plans in place to break free. Repentance involves hard work, shifting our focus from old habits to new ones. This is a biblical truth foundational to overcoming sin. Paul clearly states in Ephesians 4:22-24: “To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”

One practical step in overcoming sinful habits is journaling—writing down our struggles and sharing them with an accountability partner. Another step is tracking our spending. Keeping a detailed record of every expenditure and sticking to a budget helps us stay accountable. This is a simple, practical way to manage resources and avoid falling into financial habits that might control us.

Getting involved in serving others is another effective way to break free from sinful patterns. Ephesians 4:28 encourages us: “Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need.” Volunteering and helping those in need not only helps others, but it can also help us focus our energies on positive actions rather than destructive habits.

Above all, make your walk with the Lord intentional. Set aside time daily to read and study the Bible. It doesn’t matter when you do it—what matters is that you make the effort. God’s Word is transformative. When you focus on Him and His teachings, you gain the strength to face life’s challenges and resist the enemy's attacks. Building a relationship with God is like any other relationship—it takes time and effort.

The Bible isn’t a book of rules or tests; it’s a revelation of history and a guide for living free from the bondage of sinful habits. When we follow God’s instructions, we experience life as it was meant to be—free from the consequences of sin. Life can be radically different when we choose to live for God’s glory. As 1 Corinthians 10:31 reminds us: “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

So, where is God in your life right now? Is your mindset focused on yourself or on God?

Times spent in a blizzard

 

Life’s storms, as described in Psalm 46, can feel like blizzards—blinding and relentless, leaving us disoriented and desperate for safety. In the chaos of strong winds and the white-out of snow, it becomes difficult to see what lies ahead or even comprehend the comfort being offered. The psalmist reminds us, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1). When survival seems to hinge on simply taking the next step, we often cry out to God in the most honest and heartfelt way: “Help!” It is here, amidst the turmoil, that we reach for the One who is immovable, unshaken by the winds, and unclouded by the blizzard's fury. God sees through what we cannot; He knows our limits and allows us to endure just enough to recognize that our strength alone is insufficient.

The storms serve as a reminder that true peace, strength, and refuge are found in Him alone. Even when it feels like the very ground beneath us is crumbling and the waters of life are perilous as the ice crakes and we are in danger of plunging into the ice cold water, we are assured: “Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea” (Psalm 46:2). Our confidence is not in our ability to weather the storm but in the unshakable presence of God who “will help [us] when morning dawns” (Psalm 46:5).

In the heart of the storm, when the winds howl and the frost bites, we may feel as though we are at our breaking point. Yet, God is not moved by the chaos around us. He is sovereign, commanding stillness even in the fiercest of trials: “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!” (Psalm 46:10). His voice calms the storm within us, even when the storm outside persists. In those moments, we begin to understand that it is not about escaping the storm but learning to trust the One who walks with us through it.

When the storm finally passes, the stillness and calm reveal His power and faithfulness. “The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress” (Psalm 46:7). In the aftermath, as we take stock of the journey, we are often most awed by the peace that follows. It is in this quiet that we give thanksgiving to a Father who not only carried us through but also used the storm for our growth. The pain and uncertainty we endured have refined us, deepening our reliance on Him and teaching us where true strength and safety are found.

In the calm after the storm, gratitude wells up within us—for the shelter God provided, for the prayers He answered, and for the ways He used others to support us. We give thanks for our families, church communities, and friends who reflected God’s love and care during the storm. Most of all, we thank our Heavenly Father, who is in complete control of our future. He holds every moment in His hands, and His purposes are always for our good. Though the storm tested us, it could not overwhelm us because we were anchored in Him.

As we look back, we are reminded that every storm has a purpose. It reveals our need for God, strengthens our faith, and leads us to deeper thanksgiving. The psalmist’s words echo in our hearts: “Come, behold the works of the Lord, how he has brought desolations on the earth. He makes wars cease to the end of the earth; he breaks the bow and shatters the spear…” (Psalm 46:8-9). Just as He calms the raging seas, He calms our hearts and reminds us of His sovereignty. May we always give thanks to the Father who remains steadfast in every storm and trust Him to guide us into His peace and purposes.  

The promise of God being with us is most certainly for those who have put their trust in Him and have placed their faith and lives in the hands of Jesus. These promises of walking through the blizzards of life and finding refuge in His presence are reserved for those who have been received into His family. I do not want to mislead anyone into thinking these assurances are for those outside of God’s family. If you are unsure of your standing or have not made that step to be a part of His family, I hope you will do so before your storms begin to rage. God invites you to trust in Him, to find refuge in His unchanging love, and to experience the peace that only He can provide.

PSALM 46 ESV

God is our refuge and strength,
    a very present^[b] help in trouble.
² Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way,
    though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea,
³ though its waters roar and foam,
    though the mountains tremble at its swelling. Selah

⁴ There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
    the holy habitation of the Most High.
⁵ God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved;
    God will help her when morning dawns.
⁶ The nations rage, the kingdoms totter;
    he utters his voice, the earth melts.
⁷ The Lord of hosts is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our fortress. Selah

⁸ Come, behold the works of the Lord,
    how he has brought desolations on the earth.
⁹ He makes wars cease to the end of the earth;
    he breaks the bow and shatters the spear;
    he burns the chariots with fire.
¹⁰ “Be still, and know that I am God.
    I will be exalted among the nations,
    I will be exalted in the earth!”
¹¹ The Lord of hosts is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our fortress. 

After the Honeymoon

 

Every marriage requires significant sacrifice and compromise for two people to truly become one. In today’s world, marriage is often seen as a prison, something to be avoided at all costs. Yet, despite these negative views, marriage has endured and even thrived in most cases since the beginning of time. What makes the difference? Think of marriage like a rope—strong and unbreakable because it intertwines two strands together. In the toughest times, what keeps the rope from unraveling is a promise to stay committed and hold it all together, even when feelings are at their breaking point. The third strand? This can be found in Ecclesiastes 4:11-13, which says, “A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.” This historical wisdom reminds us that the presence of God in a marriage can strengthen the bond, even when the storms of life threaten to tear everything down.

Love alone, despite what modern songs and movies often suggest, is not enough to sustain a marriage. Couples who fail to make it through difficulties often aren’t fully committed to making the marriage work. Commitment means deciding to put in the hard work needed to repair the relationship. If you constantly think about what life would be like with someone else or wish things were different, it’s difficult to find the momentum to move forward. Divorce can have lasting consequences on your children and finances, and finding someone "better" is not always the solution, as every relationship faces its own set of challenges.

Every marriage faces difficult moments, but these challenges can be opportunities for growth. Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, couples can transform conflict into deeper connection (though this doesn't apply to abusive relationships). Often, couples in crisis direct their energy elsewhere because it’s too painful to face the problems in their marriage. Even when physically married, many have emotionally “checked out.”

To bring the energy back into a relationship, it’s important to stop looking for ways to exit. This means being mindful of activities where we invest our emotional resources, like working extra hours, overeating, spending too much time at the gym, or using social media. While these activities might seem harmless, if they are a way to avoid your spouse, they can become an exit from the relationship. Philippians 2:3-4 reminds us to "regard one another as more important than yourselves," emphasizing that we should put our spouse's interests before our own.

Marriage requires a sacrificial attitude. Ephesians 5:25 teaches that husbands should love their wives "just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her," showing the depth of commitment needed in marriage. In any relationship, but especially in marriage, it’s vital to serve one another. 1 Peter 4:10 encourages us to use our gifts to serve each other as "good stewards of the manifold grace of God."

One way to foster a positive marriage is by expressing appreciation. When you acknowledge what you love about your spouse, it reinforces positive behavior and makes your partner feel valued. Instead of a simple thank you, take time to sit down with your spouse, look them in the eyes, and express why you appreciate them. This simple act can break through negativity and strengthen the connection between you.

Even after many years of marriage, it’s essential to continue dating your spouse. Set aside time each week for a special outing, whether it’s a dinner or a walk in the park, to maintain a strong, face-to-face connection. These shared moments show that your marriage is a priority.

Remember, love is a verb. Showing care for your spouse involves performing loving actions. Ask your spouse what actions make them feel loved and try to do one of those things each day. As you act lovingly, you not only stir your own love for your spouse but also ignite their love for you. These actions can transform your relationship for the better. Romans 12:10 encourages us to "give preference to one another in honor," showing that marriage thrives on love and respect, where each person prioritizes the other.

As we continue this conversation, we'll dive into communication in part 2. Seeking help is one of the greatest steps you can take in strengthening your marriage.

Resources:

Critical Stages of Biblical Counseling, Jay E Adams

Theology of Biblical Counseling, Heath Lambert

Forgiving Others, Timothy S Lane

Finding local counselors through ACBC:  Find a Biblical Counselor Near You - ACBC

When Life Hits You Sideways

 

When life takes an unexpected turn, it often feels like we’re caught off guard. We hope that the worst things will never happen to us, and when they do, we struggle to respond and hold onto the truths we’ve built our lives on. The Bible makes it clear that God is in control of everything, even our suffering. While it’s hard to understand how a loving God could allow pain, scripture shows us that He is present with us in our struggles.

Sometimes, life feels like a sudden derailment, someone has flipped a switch and our engine is careening down the wrong track with red lights ahead and we find ourselves heading toward disaster. Yet, even in our pain, God promises to be with us. As 1 Peter 5:10 says, "And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace... will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you." God’s Word reminds us that He is good, even in difficult times. Psalm 34:8–10 reassures us: "Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good... those who seek the Lord lack no good thing." ESV

Although it’s hard to accept, God often uses suffering to teach us and draw us closer to Him. As 2 Corinthians 1:3–6 explains, God comforts us in our pain so we can comfort others. Through suffering, we experience Christ’s comfort and learn to rely on Him. We live in a broken world filled with sin, sickness, and pain. Sometimes we suffer because of our choices, and other times because of God’s purposes for His glory and our good. This isn’t just a shallow saying—it’s an acknowledgment of the deep pain and struggle that comes with life’s hardships.

Suffering connects us to others and to Christ, who knows what it means to endure pain. Hebrews 2:9–11 tells us that Jesus suffered for us, bringing us into God’s family. As brothers and sisters in Christ, we can share our struggles and offer each other hope, knowing our Savior understands. He has been there. God’s presence often becomes most real in the messiness of life, in moments when we feel broken and helpless.  And, we are most able to relate to the messy realities of life—the raw, everyday experiences where God’s presence becomes tangible.

Over the past two days, my husband and I have faced emotional ups and downs while searching for answers about his heart condition. We’ve felt moments of hope, only to be met with setbacks, leaving us humbled and uncertain. Yet, we know this is just one part of God’s bigger story—a story that’s ultimately about His glory, not ours. Even when we don’t understand His plan, we trust that God is ahead of us, working everything out for good.

We will still grieve, feel frustrated, and face disappointment, but deep in our hearts, we have peace. Our God is bigger than anything we can imagine. As Jesus said in John 16:33: "In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world."  ESV

From Habit to Transformation: The Power of Prayer and Bible Study

Developing the habit of prayer and Bible study requires a conscious and consistent effort, like the individual drops of water that come together to form an ocean, overcoming resistance and creating lasting change. Psalm 119:9-11 teaches the power of God’s word to purify us, while 1 Peter 5:8 warns us to be vigilant, guarding ourselves in prayer, especially for protection, and surrounding our lives with Christ's presence. On one level, we engage in the everyday demands of life, thinking, calculating, and meeting external needs, but within, we can still maintain a constant attitude of prayer and adoration for God’s hand in our lives.

To break free from old, destructive habits of thought, we must replace them with new, life-giving patterns. Romans 12:2 calls us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds, and Philippians 4:8 encourages us to focus on things that are pure, lovely, and true. Even though one may be faithful in church attendance and religious duties, the mere act of following these rituals does not necessarily lead to transformation (John 8:32). Good feelings alone will not free us. Transformation comes when we allow the truth to set us free, giving us a true perception of reality. Just like a child learns through the experience seeing, touching and experiencing water, we can develop habits of thought by perceiving and focusing on God's truth through repetition, concentration, and comprehension.

The things we study shape our habits, which is why Paul emphasizes the importance of focusing on what is true. In today’s culture, we are surrounded by distractions, often leaving the TV on for background noise, which erodes our ability to focus. Concentrating on a single thing, such as the study of God’s word, is a skill that many have lost but can regain with intentional effort. This focus leads to comprehension, which is more than just knowing the truth; it is the knowledge of the truth that sets us free (John 8:32). Reflection on this truth, seeing things from God’s perspective, deepens our understanding.

We often encounter people who, although knowledgeable about parts of Scripture, misunderstand its broader context and thus fail to grasp its transformative power. John 17:3 reminds us that knowing God is eternal life, not just accumulating information. The goal of Scripture study is not to collect facts but to be changed from within, as 2 Timothy 3:16-17 teaches that the Bible is for our inner transformation. We must guard against focusing too much on personal application without first understanding the author’s intended meaning. We seek a life-changing truth, not just good feelings.

Daily devotional reading is a good practice, but it is not the same as studying the Bible. Even Peter found Scripture difficult to understand (2 Peter 3:15-16), so we must approach it with care and effort. Developing the discipline to study the Bible requires hard work and intentionality. Start by reading through a smaller book of the Bible each day for a month. Keep a journal to record what stands out to you and what you learn. Use study aids and listen to Bible recordings to supplement your reading and help with memorization. Learn to ask questions, such as how the values of our culture differ from God’s Word and how we can live according to His truth.

Studying the Bible is worth our most serious effort. It leads to lasting transformation, making it an endeavor that will shape our lives for eternity.

Storms in Life

 

Bible Verse: "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." — James 1:19

Have you ever been outside when a storm is coming? Thunder rumbles, lightning flashes, and the wind blows so strong it almost feels like the world is shaking! But did you know that all storms—whether they are thunderstorms, hurricanes, or blizzards—start because of something called "pressure changes" in the air? When there is a lot of air pressure in one place and less pressure in another, it causes the air to move quickly. This can make clouds form and soon, a storm is born!

When there’s low pressure in the air, it pulls the winds toward it. As the air rises, it cools down and forms clouds. When these clouds get too full of water, the storm happens! The wind, rain, and even lightning all come from this shifting pressure. It’s like the air has too much inside, and it needs to let go!

Now, let’s talk about anger. Sometimes we feel like a storm inside, don’t we? Maybe we’re upset at a friend or feel frustrated when things don’t go the way we want. When we hold onto that anger, it’s like keeping a storm inside of us. Just like the air pressure makes a storm happen, our anger can build up inside until it explodes, just like thunder. 

God doesn’t want us to act like a storm. He wants us to be kind and gentle with our words and actions, even when we’re upset. When we feel angry, we should try to stop and think before reacting. Just like we can choose to calm down a storm by letting go of our anger, we can choose to calm our hearts and treat others with kindness.

Remember, God is very kind to us. Even when we make mistakes or treat others badly, God forgives us and still loves us. He wants us to do the same for others. By letting go of anger and forgiving, we stop our “storm” inside and show God’s love.

Let's imagine you are in the middle of a storm inside. Take a deep breath with me. In... and out... When you breathe slowly and calmly, it helps you feel peaceful again. Just like calming a storm outside, when we calm ourselves inside, we let go of the anger and choose to act kindly. Let’s practice: the next time you feel angry, try taking a deep breath, asking God to help you, and remember that He loves you and everyone around you.

Dear God, thank You for always being kind and forgiving, even when we don’t always do what is right. Help us to control our anger and show kindness to others, just like You show kindness to us. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Remember, storms outside happen because of pressure. When you feel angry, remember to take a moment to breathe, let go of the pressure, and allow God to help you calm your storm, so you can show kindness to others.

Snowstorm in a Jar (Winter STEM Activity)

Prep Time10minutes minutes

Equipment

• Cleaned plastic peanut butter jar with lid

Ingredients

• 2 cups Water
• 2 cups Baby Oil
• 1 teaspoon Acrylic Paint
• 1-2 Alka-Seltzer Tablets

Instructions

1.                  In a separate bowl or measuring cup, add a squirt of acrylic craft paint to no more than 1-2 cups of water.

2.                  Stir to blend water and paint. You can add more paint if needed.

3.                  Fill your mason jar at least halfway full of baby oil.

4.                  Slowly pour the water and paint mixture into your jar of baby oil. Allow everything to settle so oil and water/paint mixture are completely separate.

5.                  Drop Alka-Seltzer tablet into the jar and watch the snowstorm begin!

 

1. Immiscible Liquids

Liquids that do not mix to create a single homogenous mixture are said to be “immiscible.” Oil and water are perhaps the most well-known examples of this phenomenon.

Water molecules are polar molecules, which means that one end has a positive charge, and the other end has a negative charge (like a battery). The negative end of one water molecule will be attracted to the positive end of another water molecule. However, oil molecules are non-polar, so it will stick to itself and will never be attracted to a polar molecule like water.

When you try to mix oil and water, the water molecules will attract each other and bond tightly together. These secure bonds are denser, since they are tightly packed. That’s why water sinks past the oil right to the bottom of the jar.

2. Pressure

Real-life storms, whether it be thunderstorms, hurricanes, or blizzards, are all the result of pressure changes in Earth’s atmosphere. Areas of low pressure draw winds towards them, air rises up and creates clouds and the condensation to create a storm.

Our snowstorm in a jar recreates this concept on a small scale. The Alka-Seltzer tablet creates a pressure change in our jar. The sodium bicarbonate in each tablet mixes with water and forms carbon dioxide gas, which pushes droplets of water up through the oil to the top of the jar. Then the water falls back down to the bottom, like snow flurries.

Snow Dough

1 cup flour

1 cup water

1/2 cup salt

2 Tablespoons cream of tartar

2 Tablespoons vegetable oil

1. Add flour, water, salt, cream of tartar, oil, and food coloring (if using) to a pot and stir to combine.
2. Cook on low heat stirring until the ingredients start to become solid. Keep stirring as needed until playdough is cooked and begins to clump together when you stir it.
3. Once playdough is in a solid ball remove from the heat.
4. Once playdough is cool enough to handle, finish kneading by hand.

Out of Control .........

 

The recent apocalyptic events in Southern California have shaken many of us. Whether you’ve experienced it personally, know a family member, or have a dear friend impacted, the effects ripple through our lives. It’s a sobering reminder that there are events we cannot control. Yet, the temptation to fret and worry can easily consume us, even when there is nothing we can do to change the outcome. Watching the endless news reports often stirs up a whirlwind of emotions—our stomachs churn, our hearts race, and our minds refuse to stop replaying the events. These are all natural reactions because God created us with an ability to sense and respond to trouble in our world.

This awareness is not necessarily a bad thing. God designed us to care for others in their struggles and to recognize when danger is present. It can also be an invitation to turn to Him as our refuge in times of trouble. However, when we allow anxiety to overtake us, it often shifts from being helpful to harmful. Anxiety can act like a warning light on the dashboard of a train—blinking red to alert us that there’s danger nearby, whether in our external world or within our hearts. But when we ignore the warning signs, that light can escalate into a blaring horn. Suddenly, our hearts race faster, our emotions spiral, and our physical bodies respond with unpleasant symptoms that signal we are heading toward a crash.

Anxiety, like all emotions, has the potential to take control if we let it. It can grow out of proportion, fed by either real trouble or imagined scenarios we’ve created in our minds. In these moments, it can feel like the train of our lives is careening downhill with no brakes, gaining speed as we lose control. How we respond to these situations is deeply revealing—it shows us what we have placed at the center of our hearts. Is it fear? Worry? Or is it trust in God?

Whatever we organize our lives around—our worries, desires, or fears—often becomes the fuel driving the train. If we’re not careful, we can forget who the true conductor is. The good news is that God is always in control, even when our lives feel chaotic. Psalm 94:19 speaks to this truth: “When my anxious thoughts multiply within me, Your consolations delight my soul.” Even when our inner thoughts are racing and out of control, God’s comfort is available to bring us peace.

We must remind ourselves that God is not only the Creator of the universe but also the One who holds our lives in His hands. He knows every obstacle ahead, every twist and turn in the journey. And here’s the key: God has no intention of hopping off the train. He is with us through every dark tunnel, every broken rail, and even through the fires that seem impossible to endure. His promise is to strengthen, comfort, and guide us through it all. But we must choose to surrender control to Him instead of relying on our own limited understanding.

When we face life’s inevitable challenges, we must rely on God’s Word as our operational guide. Here are some truths to hold onto:

1. Bring your troubles to God: Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” When anxiety begins to take hold, don’t try to bear it alone. Take your concerns to God in prayer. Be honest with Him about your struggles and thank Him for His faithfulness. When you do, His peace will guard your heart and mind, even in the middle of chaos.
2. Focus on what is true: When our minds are consumed with worry, we need to redirect our thoughts to God’s truth. Philippians 4:8 teaches us, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” God calls us to park our minds on the things that reflect His goodness and character, rather than allowing fear or negativity to take the lead.
3. Handle the problem God’s way: Philippians 4:9 says, “What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.” God has provided us with wisdom and examples through His Word. When we follow His principles and trust in His ways, we’ll experience His peace, even in the midst of life’s storms.
4. Trust God and His timing: Finally, Philippians 4:13 reminds us, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” God’s timing is perfect, even when it doesn’t match our expectations. Trusting in His strength allows us to face even the most difficult circumstances with courage and hope.

Life will undoubtedly bring moments of trouble. There will be times when the train must pass through fallen trees, dark tunnels, and fiery trials. But we can rest in the promise that God is always with us. He sees the rail ahead and has already planned a way through. Rather than letting fear take control of the train, let’s place our faith in the One who has never failed us. When we trust Him to guide us, we’ll discover His peace, comfort, and strength—no matter what lies ahead.